I was overwhelmed by the comments on my last post, but for those of you who are worried that my life is in danger, I think I've got some explaining to do.
The Father of This Lot is not a psychopath. I admit I may have called him one on many occasions, but for the moment we'll just have to put that down to my natural charm.
Once, we were a couple of twentysomethings with a houseful of baby girls. A blissfully happy, had-it-all type of couple. In fact, we were that couple for an awfully long time. Then things happened. Nothing major, just kids, marriage, financial ups and downs, more responsibilities, work stresses.
And that was about the time that Stella got her claws into him. And to give her her due, she has hung on with a tenacity that is nothing short of remarkable. I told him it was a slippery slope, but he was only too willing to go the distance. I did fight for a long time, but then I woke up one morning with no fight left in me. The kids were hearing and seeing a lot of stuff that I thought they would be better off without and so after a lot of soul-searching on both sides, we decided that, for the moment, it would be better to live apart.
There are some things that the Father of This Lot, due to dogged determination and the amount of practice he has put in, does exceedingly well. Getting drunk is one of them. As for the others, well, this is neither the time nor the place. He always was, and still is, a fantastic provider for his family. He will do anybody a favour. He would give you (if you weren't too stubborn to ask) his last penny. If you met him, you'd think he was a great bloke.
He is a brilliant friend and a good son.
In fact, if he put his mind to it, he could be a marvellous husband.
He just doesn't put his mind to it.
All that said, he is still the first person I would go to in a crisis.
He's still my best friend.
And while we both agree that it's more peaceful living apart, neither one of us can imagine a life without the other one in it.
Which just makes it all the more sad, really.
I wish it could be different. Maybe one day it will be.
Normal service will be resumed tomorrow!